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Aunty Anne… I have a problem!

Dear Aunty Anne,  

To cut a long story short, my partner of 26 years [with whom I have 3 great kids, twin boys at 19 years and 10 year old boy], sleeps all day. He gets up between 3pm and 9pm and smokes cannabis and then goes back to bed. He has a terrible temper and if something is said wrong or goes wrong, he will smash anything in his way. He is always miserable and says it’s because he is depressed but refuses to see a doctor. I want to leave him but I’m not sure what he will do if he is depressed. I couldn’t live with myself if he did anything stupid and the kids would blame me. Can you help me please? 

Anonymous female, Manchester 

Dear Anonymous female, 

It saddens me to hear about your situation however I do think you are correct in saying that your husband is depressed. One of the hardest things is being strong when someone you love is going through something so severe, but it is unfair that you have to deal with the repercussions in this way.  I think it would be advisable if you speak to a medical professional in private and tell them about your husband’s situation, and what is happening, as this is something that you cannot help him with.  I have learned that the first step to healing is admitting that there is a problem to fix. Your husband has reached this first point that is a good sign. He just needs the medical support.  In this situation unfortunately there is very little that you can do unless he gets medical help.  Best of luck 

Dear Aunty Anne,  

I know u may hear this all the time from teenage girls, but this bully is driving me crazy. At times she’s lovely and acts like a really great friend, but then it switches and she makes remarks and disapproving faces when she doesn’t agree. If I do anything, she has a go at me and interrogates me, making me feel under pressure. She’s an only child and used to being the centre of attention but her two-faces has been going on since we were 16, which is now 3 years ago now. I’ve known her all my life, but how can I stop her making my life so hard? I’ve tried talking about it and making new friends which does work, but how can I get the lovely girl instead of the spoilt jealous one? Please help 

Anonymous female, Sheffield 

Dear Anonymous female,

It is sad to hear that you have to deal with this situation. I can understand the frustration, it isn’t easy dealing with people you assume are your friends but then they can also act like bullies. My honest advice to you would be to let these people go from your life. The effort of dealing with their moods isn’t worth it. I would speak to her, let her know how you are feeling and if she continues then I would let her go. We don’t need toxic people in our lives. Good luck. 

Dear Aunty Anne,  

Last month, I bumped into my ex-girlfriend. We sadly split 6 months ago because a lot of people began to interfere with our private lives when our relationship was meant to be very discreet. We got back together as we both thought we could give things another try. Only on the condition that we did not tell anybody and keep it a top secret. However, last month she rang me and told me there was a problem as somebody had found out. She is accusing me when I haven’t told a single soul. Now she is refusing to answer my calls and is calling me a liar. She doesn’t even reply to my texts and says things are over. I don’t want this to happen and I refuse to move on without her by my side! Can you help me please? 

Anonymous male, Leeds 

Dear Anonymous male, 

You need to be able to speak to her and explain to her that you are not involved in what has happened. It is a difficult situation but she needs to be able to trust you enough to know that you would not jeopardise your relationship. Prove to her that you wouldn’t do this. However, if she still refuses then at least you have done everything you can do, and the rest is up to her. I wish you the best of luck.

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