Sharon’s Inspiring Story!

Sharon’s Inspiring Story!

0
by Janette Ward
by Janette Ward

I would like to introduce you to Sharon Bull, an inspirational woman I recently met, who shared her story about her spending addiction and her recovery.

Her story goes like this: In September 2013 she became self-employed as an Inspirational Speaker/Writer/Poet working under the name ‘A Compassionate Voice.’ The purpose was to creatively help others through her own experiences with mental health issues, recovery and well-being. She experienced depression for thirty years and never fully understood the reasons behind it, until she was able to tackle it head on.

Since speaking out about her illness, there has been much media curiosity about her experiences, her depression, past spending addiction and attempted suicide. In February this year she reached the pinnacle of her recent journey when she self-published a book on Amazon called ‘There Is a Way.’ A book which shares much more than her life story and has so far received numerous wonderful reviews.

In her own words she says: “In 1997 I bought my first house after starting the sales career I had always dreamed of. Playing the role of independent female executive seemed to suit me and it seemed fitting that I should buy a property appropriate to my new-found status. It was mainly borrowed money, but that wasn’t such a big deal then. Banks were crying out for buyers and only a small deposit was needed.

untitled (3)“For years, I allowed myself to believe material things were the key to happiness, love, admiration and friendships. I wanted people to respect me, believe in me and see me as the confident and vivacious woman that I truly didn’t believe I was. Credit cards were like gifts from heaven as they hit the floor by the letterbox and the more I had in my purse, the better I would feel.

“In 2008 I had to sell up and move into rented accommodation, it was the first major warning sign that the financial rug was being pulled from under my feet. I could no longer afford the mortgage payments, alongside my loans, bills and credit card payments. It was the continual threatening phone calls from my creditors and months of sleepless nights which gave me no other option but to throw away the cards and consolidate my £50,000 debt. The spending party was well and truly over.

“But the nightmare had only just begun‘UK in recession as economy slides,’ was the headline news in January 2009 and with unemployment rising at an alarming rate, business wasn’t great. The stress at work started to become unbearable and the sales team I had worked with for thirteen years started to lose its spirit. After a gruelling last quarter fighting off depression and anxiety brought on by the overwhelming pressures, I made the decision to take a redundancy package.

“After the shock redundancy in March 2010, it took just over three years to find what I believe to be my true vocation. A redundancy which initially plummeted me into the worst of dire straits and yet opened the door to a much more fulfilling and purposeful life. For a couple of years, I had tried to make ends meet by testing out new waters and between these failures, I signed on at the job centre with many thousands of others. Nothing seemed to work and it wasn’t paying the bills. Behind closed doors I was becoming extremely depressed. For a while I managed to hide the severity of the situation from family, close friends and my creditors. I was both ashamed and too proud to admit defeat. But eventually my drinking, lack of sleep and continual food binging began to show.

“Towards the end of 2011, I packed my bags and reluctantly waved goodbye to my independence. I had no choice, it was the only thing I could do. With a doting Mother to take me under her wing, I considered myself very lucky and realised without her help I could have been dead, or at least homeless and on the streets.

“It was the following two years that miraculously transformed my thinking and ultimately turned my life around. I grasped what was really important to me and reignited some of my childhood passions. As a teenager I loved to walk and most weekends I would head off to the Derbyshire woods with my younger brother and a picnic basket – but these sorts of simple pleasures had disappeared as I grew older. Walking, exercise, mindfulness and meditation have each played their part in my recovery and are now all rooted firmly into my daily lifestyle.

“But above all, I realised that I had a gift and could help others – especially by sharing my story, which I discovered that people seem to find inspirational. Perhaps this is because it lifts the lid on the toxic effects our society can have on people’s lives – and the huge pressure we put on ourselves as we tirelessly strive to live out the perfect lifestyles seen in magazines, adverts and media. It also helps to break down the stigma attached to mental illness and how our perceptions of others can be far from their reality.”

Sharon’s book ‘There is a Way’ can be purchased on Amazon.

For more information about Janette or the work of Circles Work CIC contact janette@circleswork.co.uk or at www.circleswork.co.uk

Share the joy
  •  
  •  
  •  
  •  
  •  
  •  
  •  
  •